Creating A Secure Attachment With Your Partner
After a vast review of research and literature by relationship experts, psychotherapist Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure, indicates 5 ways you can cultivate a secure attachment with your partner.
Decreasing Anxiety Using our Five Senses
Incorporating your five senses can be a great way to relax, control anxiety and find the self-care practices that work for you. Without even knowing it, our senses can affect our emotions. Some of the following techniques can be used for grounding during a moment of escalation or heightened anxiety. Others are long-term practices of self-care and relaxation.
Progress is not always linear: Don’t let it discourage you from your goals
Have you ever felt disappointed or given up on a goal because you thought you were “falling off track” or not progressing as you would have liked to? We often get discouraged when we do not see a linear progress in our goals, but realistically we will often face setbacks and growth will not happen overnight.
Ouch, World.
When grief, sadness, anger, and anxiety roll in, it’s only natural to be overwhelmed, feel threatened, or let it consume us. We’re only human, after all, and our internal weather is wild with feelings that sometimes land without warning. It’s helpful to recognize a storm of emotions as perfectly normal, even holy. It arrives to say, “you have a heart.”
Depression, Anxiety, and Apathy during the 2020 Holidays -Part II
Steps to boosting your resilience and feeling like your mental health are manageable this season.
The Power of Praise
One of the simplest, yet most powerful tools a parent can use to influence their child’s behavior is praise. Praising your child is one of the many valuable skills that are taught, reinforced, and coached during Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT). Praising or complimenting your child’s behavior has many benefits for both the parent and the child.
Depression, Anxiety, and Apathy during the 2020 Holidays
The year 2020 has brought us a worldwide pandemic, physical isolation, a contentious election, and an overall sense of uncertainty. So, this holiday season, as we balance COVID-19 safety, and political landmines with family, it's essential we talk about the anxiety, depression, and apathy we may be feeling this year as well.
Breaking up with your Therapist
Have you ever thought about going to therapy and worried about “what if it’s not a good fit” or “what if I want to stop therapy, how would I tell them that?” Then you’re not alone. This is a common barrier to people starting therapy altogether or ending it in a therapeutic way.
Are you experiencing traumatic stress?
Have you ever experienced a situation that left you feeling helplessness, fearful, threatened or overwhelmed? You may attribute these feelings to “normal” stress, but you may actually be experiencing traumatic stress. Traumatic stress results from two types of traumatic experiences, a genuine personal crisis or a crisis ridden experience.
We’re All in This Together
The past year has been challenging, to say the least. We're all adjusting to constant changes and doing our best to navigate these uncertain times. Recently I’ve had several clients reach out to me and ask if I know of any organizations in the area that provide free or discounted services for health care, behavioral health, psychiatry, or medication management.
Let’s talk about spirituality!
Everyone who comes into the therapy room has standards, a moral compass that guides their individual and family lives. Those compasses differ but they are every person’s reality.
Forgiveness is Your Power Move
Everyone’s relationship to forgiveness is different, just like everyone’s reason to forgive is different. Forgiveness is a state of consciousness, not an action. Meaning, forgiveness is not about forgetting, but more about releasing the power of the pain that was caused. We might think that by withholding forgiveness, we hold the power.
Teens & Stress Management
STRESS. This word has probably buzzed through your head throughout majority of 2020. Teenagers, similar to adults, most likely experience stress every day and can benefit from learning healthy stress management. Most teens experience stress when a situation feels dangerous, difficult or painful.
The Little Girl with ADHD: Owning Your Narrative
When she was a little older, she realized that her brain being wired in a different way actually meant she had ADHD. When she had this revelation, she was shocked. All the kids that had THAT were troublemakers, spacey, impulsive. They were people she did not want to be. So, she held onto that fact like a secret. She worked even harder to change how her brain worked
Why we have the same argument over and over again?
Ever wonder why we can have such strong, opposing views and needs from those closest to us? Have you experienced recurring conflicts with partners, parents, or friends that leave you feeling misunderstood?
Eat your feelings
We all know that following a healthy diet can positively impact our physical health. But did you know that it can also help to improve our mental health? Serotonin is considered our ‘happy chemical’. Serotonin is created throughout the body, including in your GI tract and our brain, with most of it being produced in our GI tract.
Busting the Myth: PCIT is Only for Bad Kids
If you’ve heard of Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT), chances are you’ve heard that PCIT is for the “bad” kids. The kids that are the troublemakers in class, who don’t listen to anyone, have extreme temper tantrums, and the list goes on and on.
It’s a Bad Day, Not a Bad Life
We’ve all been there, everything seems to be going wrong and we can’t seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel… sounds like 2020, right? These are the moments when it is most important to remember “It’s a bad day, not a bad life.” No single moment, series of interactions, or an entire year should hold enough power to determine the quality of your day or your life overall.
Impacts of Trauma on Learning
Many people understand that trauma can have a significant impact on a child’s view of life, their ability to trust others, or how safe they feel. But one area of life that many people seem to forget is that trauma can affect a child’s ability to learn in the classroom.